It’s on me
My feelings don’t matter, they are my problem, not his, even if he hurts them, the sole responsibility of how his actions affect me are mine, he’s not responsible, as stated. My physical needs don’t matter either. only how he feels. It is my problem if I don’t receive intimacy as it’s a direct result of my body being unattractive because of how pregnancy left it and fat, my not keeping it in shape.. How can I expect him to take care of my needs when he’s turned off by my body? I won’t ask him for “help” either as I know how he feels about my body and that hurts me, he’ll be thinking how it does not turn him on. I know he said he married me because “there was hope” (In regards to me getting plastic surgery) , but it wounds me that I’m not going to receive that unless I look a certain way. I understand by his actions and focus when I try to talk about my feelings or try to flirt , that the house being in order is the main priority in our relationship and things related to the ...